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What The Golden Bachelor and Snowbirds Have in Common
The Golden Bachelor and Snowbirds Have Another Chance at Finding Love
More than 7.7 million viewers to date have watched the first season of ABC's premier hit show "The Golden Bachelor" featuring America's favorite new senior, 72 year-old Gerry Turner [pronounced GAIR-ee] who happens to live in Northeast Indiana, just like I do. Not only did ABC capture the senior viewing audience, younger fans are also watching and taking notes of dating in your 60's and 70's. As a snowbird, I've personally witnessed my snowbird friends in various stages of relationships who found love again and it's really not that different from the hit show.
ABC created spinoff, "The Golden Bachelor" to showcase seniors after 27 successful seasons of "The Bachelor/ Bachelorette," which features the lusty antics of twenty-somethings, typically in a gorgeous setting, including the latest incarnation, "Bachelor in Paradise." Many viewers are already familiar with the premise: An attractive, single young man or woman is featured on the reality show to select their potential lifelong mate from a dating pool of alluring types who aren't shy about sharing and showing it all for the cameras. No one will accuse the young people of being boring, they put it all "out there" in more ways than one.
We all know 20-somethings and 70-somethings are not in the same dating universe, physically or mentally. However, there's a lot to be said about the differences as well as the similarities. The differences are fairly obvious with the enticing young people of "The Bachelor/Bachelorette" just starting out with their dreams, career, love life and future families. The seniors have been there, yes, but as seniors it's much more complicated. Not only do the senior singles have to cope with the loss of a spouse due to death or divorce, their life choices are much broader with the opinions and wishes of adult children and grandchildren to contend with, financial and retirement plans and the logistics of where to live when your new flame resides in another part of the nation. It's not so easy to pack up and move from the entanglements of loved ones when you've spent most of your life building on that core family unit.
Similarities with Bachelor/Bachelorette's highlighted on the first season of The Golden Bachelor is how active and attractive the seniors are. Not only are the single seniors very energetic, they are noticeably physically fit, fashionable and fun! A little more discreet than their younger counterparts, they speak in double-entendres to flirt and finesse their onscreen romance.
Audiences of The Golden Bachelor identified with the 22 beautiful and accomplished ladies featured on the show as well as the very easy-on-the-eyes, tall, tan and handsome leading man, Gerry Turner. Ladies dream of a man like Gerry because he made each woman feel he was personally connecting with her and her alone. He attentively listened to each woman, responded to her joys and concerns and showed appreciation, all while being very diplomatic and quite charming. What's not to like? Snowbirds are very familiar with this concept, whether dating or making new friends and it definitely works.
The viewers also appreciate the genuine sincerity of the friendships and support of the ladies who lived as a group in a gorgeous Southern California "fantasy mansion" when the show filmed in August and September of 2023. Not only did the ladies share guest rooms, they shared their hopes, dreams and heartaches. They prepared meals together, styled each other's clothes, hair and makeup to look their best, had leisure time fun in the pool and looked after not just themselves, but their families at home. Several of the women made tremendous sacrifices including one who chose to be absent from her daughter's wedding and two who removed themselves from the show to be there for loved ones they felt were in great need at home. All of the ladies truly seemed to want to find love again just as much as the leading man, Mr. Turner.
Many online and interview comments have noted the personal accomplishments of the cast of The Golden Bachelor. Not only are these seniors looking for true love, they have been at that point in their life where mistakes have been made resulting in self-growth. Having had months and years of reflection, they are ready to make the move, put it all out there and go for it! Snowbirds are like-minded. They are not snowbirds because they didn't take chances and risks throughout their lives.
The final episode of The Golden Bachelor concludes tonight, November 30, but the fascination with seniors dating and marrying in their golden years has only just begun. It isn't about scoring the "prize" of winning the first Golden Bachelor's heart, the cast is well aware there are 22 ladies vying for the affection of just one man. However, the overwhelming consensus is that single seniors, whether snowbirds or not, can find renewed optimism that their own Golden Bachelor or Golden Bachelorette is out there and like Mr. Turner, that person does exist and inspires men and women to remain active, never give up hope and keep the dream of finding love again.
"Because when I look at you, I can feel it. And I look at you and I'm home.”
-- Dory, "Finding Nemo," 2003 American animated comedy-drama adventure film produced by Pixar Animation Studios for Walt Disney Pictures
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I am honored to have two original maps published in "Florida's Emerald Coast, A Pathway to Paradise" by Robert Reynolds
Books Connect Snowbirds to Community
Six Favorite Local and Regional Gulf Coast Books
At the end of summer when the weather starts changing and there's a lull in the seasons, it's the heart of the off season for snowbirds. I've found myself caught between the daily grind of my Northern home and planning ahead for the next snowbird season. It's not quite time to get caught up in the excitement of spending a winter away and there's still a lot to do to get to that point. Unfinished plans, unexpected commitments and personal goals are just a few of the barriers between now and the prospect of escaping to our beloved warm weather community. For me, bridging the off season gap is super important and I've found books to be therapeutic in many ways.
Books have always been a favorite past time and they bring many calming memories of reading by the lake, in the car as we travel or just sitting on the sofa in the evenings. Over the years I've collected local and regional cookbooks as well as beautiful coffee table books about my snowbird community. Each book is a prized possession because you can't just buy them anywhere. They are more special because they are exclusive to the southern community that we call home. Each one carries a memory: finding his and her local cookbooks in a charming downtown bookstore of the Walton County seat; browsing local books in The Henderson Park Inn's gift shop area after our anniversary dinner and shopping with the ladies in Seaside, a charming beach community of Northwest Florida.
I've included an overview of favorite books in my collection and I encourage you to find your own personal local and regional books. New and used book stores, gift shops, local markets, online and everywhere in between, there's an array of books just waiting to be found. Books are more than just bound paper with ink. They transform, inspire, calm, inform, provide history, stories and entertainment as well as solace no matter where you are.
Books Bridge Time and Distances
One of the biggest comforts of either my Northern or Southern home are my growing collection of local and regional books. Each one is special with it's own story of how I acquired it. Not only do I purchase books for myself, I also look for books to leave behind for someone else to connect with and enjoy. I encourage each of you to find your own collection of meaningful books and share what makes them extra special.
Of the books featured in my collection, the most personally meaningful is "Florida's Emerald Coast, A Pathway to Paradise," because the author included two of my original graphics in the book. Robert Reynolds found my original map of Florida's Emerald Coast that I created specifically for my Midlife Snowbird blog and now the revised map is immortalized on page two of his latest book. Upon the author's request, I created a second map of Walton County Florida's rare coastal dune lakes and that map is featured on page 32 of Mr. Reynold's book. To say it is an honor is an understatement. I have read the first edition of "Pathway to Paradise" cover to cover and highly recommend Mr. Reynold's books for anyone who loves Northwest Florida and wants to know more about the "History, People Walton County Communities, Highway 30A and Nature."
GREAT AMERICAN GRILLING: The Ultimate Backyard Barbecue and Tailgate Cookbook
Author: Kent Whitaker
Pages: 287
Photos: Yes
Publisher: Great American Publishers, Brandon, Mississippi
greatamericanpublishers.com
Overview:
Sizzling Starters
Serious Grilling
Something Extra
Introduction:
"My grandparents in Alabama and Mississippi grilled over pecan, charcoal and other woods. My dad mastered the art of campfire cooking and back yard grilling.... My career in culinary writing and writing cookbooks began after I won the Emeril Live/Food Network Barbecue Contest.... In this book I share with you 250 of my favorite recipes for grilling, barbecuing and tailgating. It is my hope that if nothing else, you will have FUN cooking from my book, and, of course, cook some great food. A common theme in my writing is history, and this book is no exception." -- Kent Whitaker
LULU'S KITCHEN: A TASTE OF THE GULF COAST GOOD LIFE
Author: Lucy Buffet
Forward by Jimmy Buffet
Pages: 264
Photos: Yes
Publisher: Grand Central Life and Style, Hachette Book Group, New York, New York
grandcentrallifeandstyle.com
Overview:
Cocktail Hour
Gumbo Love and Other Deep South Soups
Sassy Salads
Sandwiches and Such
Sweet Things
Party Favors: Dinner Party Menus
Introduction:
"LuLu's Kitchen is Lucy Buffet's culinary guide to classic Southern coastal cuisine and features more than 120 signature recipes from her famous Gulf Coast restaurants, LuLu's. The greatest passion of this self-proclaimed gypsy rebel and reluctant entrepreneur is cooking food for the people she loves.... She currently serves more than one million guests a year at her two LuLu's locations. LuLu's Kitchen is brimming with authentic family recipes, humorous stories and plenty of wit and wisdom."
30A LIVING
Author: Eleanor Lynn Nesmith
Photography: Jean Allsopp
Pages: 221
Photos: Yes
Publisher: Design 360, llc, Santa Rosa Beach, Florida
design-360.com
Overview:
A Place Called 30A
Santa Rosa Beach
Grayton Beach
Watercolor
Seaside
Seagrove
Watersound
Seacrest
Rosemary Beach
Alys Beach
Introduction:
"Along the Gulf Coast of Northwest Florida, a string of picturesque towns known collectively as 30A... offers a retreat. Featuring hundreds of images, 30A Living explores nine of the the colorful towns that enliven this unique twenty mile stretch of beach and takes a rare glimpse inside eighteen inspiring homes from Santa Rosa Beach to Alys Beach. From the outside these homes are remarkable... Step inside where design cues and details reflect the area's strong architectural traditions..."
HENDERSON PARK INN: EXCEPTIONAL TASTE, TALES AND RECIPES
Executive Editor: William Hagerman
Pages: 287
Photos: Yes
Publisher: Dunavant Gulf, LLC, Memphis, Tennessee
Overview:
Breakfast on the Beach
Beachside Picnics
Sunset Toasts
Starlit Dinners
Sweet Evenings
Introduction:
"What's exceptional about Henderson Park Inn is the unforgettable experience created by the snow white sandy beach, emerald Gulf waters, nature's preserve at Henderson State Park, and rustic manor of the Inn, which are complemented by the tasty foods at Beach Walk Cafe, and the other Great Destin Places that continue to provide a lifetime of warm memories for their guests... whom they call family."
LITTLE GULF COAST SEAFOOD COOKBOOK
Author: Kent Whitaker
Pages: 192
Photos: Yes
Publisher: Great American Publishers, Brandon, Mississippi
greatamericanpublishers.com
Overview:
Starters and Soups
Sandwiches
Seafood/Fish
Sides and Sauces
Introduction:
"Join renowned cookbook author Kent Whitaker on a tasty scenic journey along the five coastal states of the Gulf of Mexico... Texas, Louisiana, Mississippi, Alabama and Florida. Along the way, experience some Gulf Coast history while reading profiles about beautiful places to visit in the area and enjoy expert tips.... Best of all, you will enjoy delectable southern seafood recipes... to please everyone."
FLORIDA'S EMERALD COAST: A PATHWAY TO PARADISE
History -- People -- Walton County Communities -- Highway 30A -- Nature
Author: Robert O. Reynolds
Mr. Reynolds included my original map of the Emerald Coast on page two of his latest book, "Florida's Emerald Coast, A Pathway to Paradise"
The Coastal Dune Lakes of Walton County and Choctawhatchee Bay
Plants You'll See on the Emerald Coast
Communities Along Highway 30A
State Parks and Trails on Highway 30A and the Emerald Coast
Creatures of the Emerald Coast
A Timeline of Events in the Development of the Emerald Coast
Life on the Emerald Coast and Scenic Highway 30A, Present and Future
Introduction:
"This book tells the story of Florida's Emerald Coast with an emphasis on Walton County, and roads including Scenic Highway 30A, an iconic road that has been important in the development of the region... You'll meet a diverse set of characters, the people who planned, developed and managed the range of communities contained in the story... I will discuss the rare and beautiful coastal dune lakes that help to make the region unique... Florida's Emerald Coast is a place that gets in your mind and makes you want to return, as I continue to do for cherished vacations." -- Robert Reynolds
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Where to shop to furnish your vacation rental or second home
Personally, I'm not a shopper. I'd rather do almost anything else than run to the store for something. Professionally, I've become adept at finding everything needed to furnish our vacation rental and have invested much time and thought in choosing every single item. Nothing was purchased or returned on a whim or without weighing the pros and cons of how that item fit into the rental property or not.
Many snowbirds own a vacation rental, second home, lake, desert or mountain home and/or simply want to know where to find the charming items stocked in their winter rental. That used to be me. Where did the owner acquire the rugs, pillows, lighting, accent pieces, furniture, artwork and outdoor patio set? Now I'm that person supplying these items and we've had guests ask, "Where exactly did the mattress come from and what is the specific model # of it?" A true compliment!
It's ironic that being a shopper in a professional capacity changes your outlook on what you are looking for. You are not only shopping for what you like, you are anticipating what your guests will like. It's not just the adults, you have to appeal to the teens and kids too. There's a mix of every personality staying in a rental unit, which means it's critical to identify the overall theme. I've written about this topic in another post [The Basics of How to Furnish a Vacation Rental Property] and it's important to get it right. A guy's rustic fishing trip kind of place is completely different than a ladies' luxury getaway or a romantic couple's retreat.
Everything needs to work together in a cohesive way and you have to know what the limits are. When is enough, enough? How much is too much to spend? Is good enough, enough? Is it time to stop shopping?
Your furnishings must not only look appealing, they need to endure wear and tear to get through at least one entire busy season. Value, quality and brands do make a difference for many items that need to last much longer than one season. Other items, such as bath towels and wash cloths need only meet your minimal standards because they will be replaced before showing lots of wear. No one wants to use a thread-bare towel or make-up stained wash cloth. This also applies to chipped dishes. Buy a moderately priced brand that will be available from year to year and replace every single chipped item. Tired, imperfect and dirty is what many guests have at home and they want to escape to fresh everything. Below, I will share where I shopped to furnish our vacation rental. Consider every possible bricks and mortar store and online resource to find the mix that works for you.
Walmart
I love Walmart for anything where you only need the basics, large and small.
Ceramic every day dinner plates, salad plates, bowls, serving platters
Glassware such as short and tall drinking glasses, juice glasses, wine glasses
Casserole dishes in various sizes
Flatware and serving spoons
Utensils such as wooden spoons, whisks, spatulas
Stainless steel utensil caddy
Chip-resistant Corelle bowls, dinner and salad plates (kid friendly)
Coffee cups
Coffee filters
Dish racks and storage solutions
Dish clothes
Dish towels
Drawer organizers
Plastic wrap, aluminum foil
Measuring cups and measuring spoons
Plastic nesting mixing bowls
Glass pitcher
Plastic pitcher
Nesting skillets
Pots and pans in various sizes
Disposable salt and pepper shakers
Cleansers: toilet bowl, glass and multi-purpose
Liquid hand soap
Laundry soap
Laundry hamper
Collapsible drying rack
Coffee maker
Blender
Toaster
Iron
Alarm clock with charging portals
Mattress pads
Mattress topper
Pillows
Pillow cases
Batteries
Light bulbs
Paint brushes, drop cloth and supplies
Spray paint
Glass display jar for sea shells
Outdoor cushions
Markers, coloring books and sketch pads
Games, puzzles
Bar stools (I had to return them due to odd counter height)
Home Goods
Home Goods is great for discounted prices on better quality close-out items
Knick knack decor items that add charm to every room
Wall art
Beach towels
Ice bucket
Wooden charcuterie board
Cutting boards in various sizes
Household items such as coffee mugs, measuring utensils, serving spoons
Paper towel holder
Decorative liquid soap dispensers for kitchen and bath
Area rugs
Place mats
Pillows for both bed and outdoor use
Vanity seat
Foot stool
Games, puzzles
I also shopped regularly at Tuesday Morning for these same items, but unfortunately the retailer closed it's stores in 2023
Big Box Stores: Lowes and Home Depot
Big box stores fill in a lot of gaps for practical household items
Outdoor cushions
Outdoor rugs
Welcome mat
Wire closet shelves
Rubber wire coated dish shelves and racks
Hardware such as hammer, screwdriver and miscellaneous hardware
Paint brushes and spray paint
Room darkening curtains
Blinds
Light bulbs
Cleansers: for toilet bowl, glass, shower and multi-purpose
Gallon-sized liquid soap refill
Laundry soap
Thrift Shops
Thrift shops are ideal for pre-owned household items at a greatly reduced price. Typically, I drop off donations and then visit the shop to see if there's anything of interest. Thrift shop furniture is typically very well built if it's more than 20 years old and often will look fresh again with a new coat of paint.
Barware such as gently used glass beer mugs, wine glasses, pilsner glasses and rocks glasses
Games, puzzles, books
Kitchenware, pots, pans, casserole dishes
Furniture, mirrors, artwork, housewares
Restaurant Suppliers: Gordons Food Service
Restaurant suppliers such as Gordons Food Service are great for commercial grade products that need to wear well for many seasons.
Baking sheets in multiple sizes
Muffin tins
Glass pitchers
Serving utensils
Online
Amazon, Etsy and other online retailers such as Overstock and Wayfair offer practical specialty and unique items.
Driftwood decorative bowl
Knife set with butcher block holder
Hand towels, wash cloths, bath towels, bath mats
Hair dryer and cloth storage bag
Plastic storage bags with zippers
Bedspreads
Custom signage
Oversized plastic serving bowl
Specialized Christmas/holiday decor
Surf Shops
Surf shops are great for finding local items that add that extra special touch.
Starfish, specialty shells and sand dollars
Beachy front door decor and signage
Coastal accessories
Let's be real, there's no need to pay for free driftwood and shells from your local beach. Buy the items that you can't find at the shore.
Local Retail Shops
Local mom and pop retail or consignment shops, such as Retail Therapy in Santa Rosa Beach, Florida typically offer local products for a one-of-a-kind purchase.
Original art and ready-to-frame prints by local and regional artists
Handcrafted local items
Books by local and regional authors
One of a kind decor and items unique to the area
Local and Regional Furniture Stores
Mattress Firm, Rooms to Go and local furniture stores have practical options at various price points for big ticket items.
Lamps
Dressers
Bedroom set
Coffee tables, end tables
Buffet servers
Dining room set
Sofas
Easy chairs
Mattress with adjustable tilt bed frame
Mirrors
Lighting
Area rugs
Wall art
National Retail Stores
National retailers such as Marshalls/TJ Maxx, Hobby Lobby, At Home, Kirklands, Five Below and other medium to large home stores offer items you might not find elsewhere.
Mirrors and wall art
Decor and accessories
Kitchenware and utensils
Bedding, pillows, towels, blankets, bedspreads
Most any type of housewares and goods related to the home and patio
Before Bed, Bath and Beyond closed stores in 2023, I shopped there as well.
Parting Thoughts
You have to know when to edit yourself and stop shopping. If you can't do this on your own, ask a trusted friend or family member for honest feedback. No one wants to stay in a place that has too much of a good thing. If necessary, rotate your regular and seasonal accessories so returning guests feel there's something new to enjoy for their stay. Retire items that start to show a little wear, not after they are worn out or too dirty to clean. Never keep broken items, not only is it a safety hazard, it's unbecoming.
As a professional shopper, it can be fun, but it is a LOT of work. Pace yourself so you can think about each item and how it relates to what you already have. If necessary, return it or donate it to a local charity. I bought a charming $35 lamp with a sea-grass shade at Home Goods. Upon installing it in the rental unit's bedroom, it didn't quite look right. So I decided to paint it a coastal blue hue to blend in better with the decor. It still didn't look right and now it had an imperfect paint job. I felt it was time to retire the lamp. Letting go of the items that are not working for one reason or another is better than making a bad impression.
One more thing: don't forget to keep an eye on the trends. After a few years, it's important to replace dated items with fresher things, not because they actually are bad, just to keep ahead of or equal to your competition. Money can't buy happiness, but it can buy the large and small items that provide the extra special charm.
"Whoever said money can't buy happiness simply didn't know where to go shopping.”
-- Gertrude Stein, American Novelist, Poet, Playwright, Art Collector [1874-1946]
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